The husband being committed to his wife is actually he being committed to himself. Because the two have become one, commitment to his wife shows commitment to himself.
This verse is in no way saying that because the man is the head of the wife, he is always to demand his own way and not care how that affects the wife. No! That’s not the way Christ treats the church. The bible admonishes the husband to love as Christ loved the church. And love does not demand his own way.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5 (NLT)
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.
The husband is to treat his wife as his own body. Whatever won’t be good to him shouldn’t be heaped on his wife just because he is the husband. When your wife isn’t behaving seemingly, the solution is to be an expression of Christ to her, love her, pray for her, support her, seek ways you can help her out etc.That’s what it means to love her as Christ loved the church.
Again, the wife is also not to take a position of demanding her rights or trying to take things into her hand because she feels her husband is not acting rightly. That’s not the virtue of Christ. Remember again that Love does not demand its own way. Demanding your own way is not the way of love and we are all children of Love (God). So the wife is to express this love of Christ to her husband, pray for him, support him, seek ways he can help him out etc.
As children of God, the bible admonishes us to share each other’s burden.
Galatians 6:2 (NLT)
Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.
This doesn’t change once you get married. So couples shouldn’t take the position of standing aside and blaming each other anytime there’s an issue. They are to share each other’s burden. The burden of the wife is the burden of the husband and vice versa. So they stick together to find how best to solve it.
Always arm yourself with this; you are a child of God firstly, you belong to Christ firstly and you are to express the virtues of Christ always. You are to share each *other’s* burden in marriage. By so doing, you obey the law of Christ (the law of love, that is, the law at work in us by the Spirit).
In the nutshell, the whole admonition to the wife and husband is that they will be devoted to each other in pursuit of the purpose of God for their lives. When the Spirit of God first opened my eyes to this, I was amazed. I hadn’t heard anyone talk about it before. I couldn’t articulate it, but I could literally see it, it was so real to me. A long while after I had seen what I just shared with you, I was more amazed when I saw the The Passion Translation of Ephesians 5:21-28. Let’s read it together:
21 And out of your reverence for Christ be supportive of each other in love. 22 For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord, 23 for the husband provides leadership for the wife, just as Christ provides leadership for his church, as the Savior and Reviver of the body. 24 In the same way the church is devoted to Christ, let the wives be devoted to their husbands in everything. 25 And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself 26 to make us holy and pure, cleansing us through the showering of the pure water of the Word of God. 27 All that he does in us is designed to make us a mature church for his pleasure, until we become a source of praise to him—glorious and radiant, beautiful and holy, without fault or flaw. 28 Husbands have the obligation of loving and caring for their wives the same way they love and care for their own bodies, for to love your wife is to love your own self.
The Passion Translation spelt it out beautifully. This is the whole admonition; to be devoted to each other in reverence to God. This is why I was touched when I heard the couple in the series say to each other, “I commit to you.” That’s the whole admonition of Ephesians 5:21-28. That’s what the husband and wife are to do.
In fact, that’s how believers should be to Christ. We are to be committed to him and not yield to strange doctrines. That’s how we are to be to each other as believers. This is because we are one body. We are to commit to each other. I hope this blesses you.
You are deeply loved!