Having established the oneness of the man and the woman, to say that the woman is inferior means that you do not understand the formation of the first man and woman. The woman was made from the man. That means that they are of the same kind. So the woman is just a different side of the man. It is the same one being.

This was the same thing Paul was passing across in Ephesians 5, he was telling the husband and wife to realize their oneness and be devoted to each other. This is because only in such oneness can they work together.

The reason the woman is to submit to her husband is not because she was an afterthought and as such inferior. The reason the man is to love his wife is not because he is the original creation and as such superior. As we have established, both the first man and the woman was the original intention of God and they are both of the same kind.

The reason the woman is to submit is because she is one with her husband and only through submission can they work together to achieve God’s purpose. The reason the man is to love is because he is one with his wife and should care for her as a man cares for his body.

As I established in my series, “I commit to you”, submission and love as used by Paul in Ephesians 5 actually is in reference to the same thing. Jesus LOVED us by SUBMITTING his life to us. So there is love in submission and submission in love.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also LOVED the church, and GAVE HIMSELF for it;

Christ loved the church. How? By giving himself for the church. In his love, Christ submitted his life for the redemption of the church. That shows care and devotion. Husbands are told to show this same care and devotion to their wives. The wives are in turn to show this same devotion to their husbands.

Basically, all that Paul was saying was that both the man and woman should be devoted to each other in godly reverence for the fulfillment of the plan of God. (Read more on this from my article titled, I COMMIT TO YOU on

We are created as one for the fulfillment of God’s purpose. Christ as our head means he is our source and supplier of every good thing. Christ as our head laid down his life.

We shouldn’t think of headship as the one commanding everyone else to lay down as they stand on top. Headship is depicted in Christ and how he laid down his life. Thus, the man as the head means the source of love and care just as Christ depicted.

Now let’s establish this; with our relationship with Christ, he is always our source, we are always the receivers and expression of all that we have received from him. This is different from our relationship with our spouse. In marriage, one person doesn’t always give whiles one person always receive. No! In marriage, having received the fullness of God in Christ, both husband and wife give love, care and devotion to each other. We build up each other and hold each other up in the course of fulfilling God’s purpose.

The headship of the man is in his realization that he is one with his wife and giving himself (care and devotion) to his wife. The submission of the wife is in her understanding that she is one with her husband and giving herself (care and devotion) to her husband. In the nutshell, due to this oneness, whatever affects one affects the other so we take care of each other, we hold each other up for we are one.

I love how The Passion Translation puts it all together;

21 And out of your reverence for Christ be supportive of each other in love. 22 For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord, 23 for the husband provides leadership for the wife, just as Christ provides leadership for his church, as the Savior and Reviver of the body. 24 In the same way the church is devoted to Christ, let the wives be devoted to their husbands in everything. 25 And to the husbands, you are to demonstrate love for your wives with the same tender devotion that Christ demonstrated to us, his bride. For he died for us, sacrificing himself 26 to make us holy and pure, cleansing us through the showering of the pure water of the Word of God. 27 All that he does in us is designed to make us a mature church for his pleasure, until we become a source of praise to him—glorious and radiant, beautiful and holy, without fault or flaw. 28 Husbands have the obligation of loving and caring for their wives the same way they love and care for their own bodies, for to love your wife is to love your own self. (Ephesians 5:21-28)

After Paul had spoken about the husband and wife, he makes a striking remark;

Ephesians 5:32

This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

All that Paul was saying about the husband and wife was actually pointing to Christ. Christ was the mark he wanted to hit. This means that the whole creation of the male and female was for the purpose of Christ. The whole intention of God in creating the male and female was to have them in Christ. So in the nutshell, God wanted both males and female in Christ. He wanted to have everyone in Christ reigning over creation.

Ephesians 1:9-10

God has now revealed to us his mysterious plan regarding Christ, a plan to fulfill his own good pleasure. 10 And this is the plan: At the right time he will bring everything together under the authority of Christ—everything in heaven and on earth.

It is about Christ and the church. We, who, have believed in Christ (both male and female) are now the church. We are the body of Christ; we are one with him. Our true worth and identity is in him.

The purpose of this teaching is not to create a sense of female superiority, not at all. This is because what matters is not who is superior to the other but that all (whether male or female) would be in Christ and reign through him.

Gal 3:27-28

For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

We are all one in Christ. This is the purpose of this write-up: to establish our oneness in Christ. We are born of the same God. Christ is our life. Let’s think of each other as in Christ. Let’s hold up each other as of the same Father. Let’s stop the comparison and struggle for superiority. In Christ, our true superiority is established; we are seated in heavenly places with Christ far above all principality and power. This should be enough for us. Let’s embrace it and move on with bringing many into Christ through the preaching of the gospel.

You are deeply loved!



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